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		<title>Talk of marriage</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[As some people have noticed, I might be getting married. Lots of people are asking questions, so I&#8217;ll try to answer some of them here. Who&#8217;s the girl? Sam. We met on Isla Mujeres on Christmas day. Yes, that was &#8230; <a href="http://www.callum-macdonald.com/2009/01/06/talk-of-marriage/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As some people have <a title="I might be getting married on Twitter" href="http://twitter.com/chmac/status/1100109416" target="_blank">noticed</a>, I might be getting married. Lots of people are asking questions, so I&#8217;ll try to answer some of them here.</p>
<h4>Who&#8217;s the girl?</h4>
<p><a title="Sam and I visiting the Xununtanich Mayan ruins" href="http://westernbelizehappenings.blogspot.com/2009/01/tourists-enjoying-western-belize.html" target="_blank">Sam</a>. We met on Isla Mujeres on Christmas day. Yes, that was only 13 days ago. She&#8217;s Vietnamese Chinese by parentage, Canadian by citizenship, and she lives in Brooklyn.</p>
<h4>Why get married?</h4>
<p>Sam suggested it. I think we&#8217;re fairly compatible, we have similar beliefs. I think she&#8217;d make a good mother. It may not be romantic, but I think it&#8217;s practical. I&#8217;d prefer to get married because I think we&#8217;re compatible than because I&#8217;m infatuated and caught up in romance.</p>
<h4>Why now?</h4>
<p>Sam lives in Brooklyn, I live in Guadalajara. Her flight back is the 17th of Jan. I&#8217;m willing to get married impulsively because I think it might work. I don&#8217;t think a long distance relationship would work. So I figure it&#8217;s all or nothing.</p>
<p>I believe marriage is a commitment to work hard to maintain a healthy relationship. I&#8217;m happy to make that commitment to Sam and see where it goes.</p>
<p>I think getting married is a self fulfilling prophecy. The marriage is the commitment. Making the commitment is what makes the relationship work. So I&#8217;m willing to make that commitment and see what happens. None of us can predict the future, but I&#8217;m getting into this with my eyes open.</p>
<h4>Progress report</h4>
<p>We rented a car in <a title="San Ignacio, Belize on Wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/San_Ignacio_Cayo" target="_blank">San Ignacio</a> and drove to <a title="Belmopan, capital of Belize on Wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Belmopan" target="_blank">Belmopan</a>, the capital of Belize. We got the marriage licence form from the Ministry of the Attorney General. We completed and signed the form in front of a Justice of the Peace. Sam had some pre-marital nerves.</p>
<p>Now we have the paperwork, we could submit it in the morning and be married in the afternoon. I&#8217;m not sure how it&#8217;ll play out.</p>
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