Talk of marriage

As some people have noticed, I might be getting married. Lots of people are asking questions, so I’ll try to answer some of them here.

Who’s the girl?

Sam. We met on Isla Mujeres on Christmas day. Yes, that was only 13 days ago. She’s Vietnamese Chinese by parentage, Canadian by citizenship, and she lives in Brooklyn.

Why get married?

Sam suggested it. I think we’re fairly compatible, we have similar beliefs. I think she’d make a good mother. It may not be romantic, but I think it’s practical. I’d prefer to get married because I think we’re compatible than because I’m infatuated and caught up in romance.

Why now?

Sam lives in Brooklyn, I live in Guadalajara. Her flight back is the 17th of Jan. I’m willing to get married impulsively because I think it might work. I don’t think a long distance relationship would work. So I figure it’s all or nothing.

I believe marriage is a commitment to work hard to maintain a healthy relationship. I’m happy to make that commitment to Sam and see where it goes.

I think getting married is a self fulfilling prophecy. The marriage is the commitment. Making the commitment is what makes the relationship work. So I’m willing to make that commitment and see what happens. None of us can predict the future, but I’m getting into this with my eyes open.

Progress report

We rented a car in San Ignacio and drove to Belmopan, the capital of Belize. We got the marriage licence form from the Ministry of the Attorney General. We completed and signed the form in front of a Justice of the Peace. Sam had some pre-marital nerves.

Now we have the paperwork, we could submit it in the morning and be married in the afternoon. I’m not sure how it’ll play out.

12 thoughts on “Talk of marriage”

  1. That’s quite an interesting way of looking at marriage. I like it. Happiness to you and the bride.

  2. Congrats! I’m not sure if it’s best to ask fellow bloggers if you should do it or not though haha. From my personal experience, I dated my gf for 3 years travelling back and forward from England > Hong Kong every couple of was tough! Then lived together after. She asked me to marry, we did 3 days later…I found not preparing for it and just doing it was the way to go as we didn’t know what to expect.

    Living together is certainly an experience though and I’d recommend to all those interested in getting married, you will find each other’s “pet peves” and annoyances.

  3. It’s not the way I look at marriage, but at least I agree that it’s hard work to keep up a relationship – so there should at least be some fun and romance in it, not just practical reasons.
    I don’t believe relationships last forever anyway, so when you are getting married out of a mood – always keep in mind that divorce is expensive πŸ˜‰
    But anyway, good luck to you and your wife-to-be.

  4. I sam, she is almost family.

    And this “practical/good mother” stuff, seems so beyond giving up on giving a shit about the joys that life can bring that it makes me uneasy. Surely a good natured hoax for your collective friends?

    Should it happen, I wish you all the best.
    If you hurt my friend I know at least 15 people who will line up to skull fuck you through your eye socket.

  5. First off, I think you’re a legend.

    But I have a stroooong opinion regarding marriage as a ‘self-fulfilling’ prophecy. I just see too many people getting married, thinking it would make things work that didn’t work in the first place.

    I also don’t think marriage is about being practical. I CLEARLY saw my children in Althea’s eyes early on. At some point, whether in the first hour, day or year, you need to look at the woman in your life and just KNOW.

    Best of luck, Callum!

  6. Three letters… W… T… F…?!

    There’s so many things I see wrong with it that this comments box ain’t long enough… but you always were unconventional, and it always seemed to work out for you…

  7. My goodness!!! I’m all for it!

    Just because you’ve not known someone a long time doesn’t mean it won’t last forever!

    I met Tim one night while drunk on holiday in June in Portugal, and I knew from that moment on we’d be together for good. I left Edinburgh in September to live with him. We’d be married already except his Decree Absolute on his divorce is still pending! We got matching tattoos instead as we figured you could take a ring off…

    And despite the romance it is practical too (he’s a company director so is fairly solvent!!) so being practical is also an absolute must!!!

    I’m so happy for you and glad you have found what sounds like a fairly epic lady.

    Please put some pics up so we can all see!!!


    Lauren πŸ™‚

  8. Gut feeling? (For those of you who don’t believe in such a thing…gut feelings that is…read “Blink” by Malcolm Gladwell)

    Wrong, wrong, wrong.

    You’re not in love, you’re in lust. And logic is no way to decide your lifetime partner.

    Don’t do it.

    I mean it.

    Step away from the Marriage licence and put your hands on your head.

    Re-visit in 6 months and see how you feel then.

  9. Hmmm. Well if you’re gonna (or have done) something, then do it well. All the best:-)
    Congratulations (?)

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